She loves like prairie grasses...

Jul 26

Anonymous said: What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?




50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.

It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.

While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.

Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it. 

It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.


Boycott this fucking movie, for the love of god. These kinds of ideas are dangerous and set us back as a society 

Jul 17

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Well, I’m glad that I’m done sobbing and replaying how else I could have handled that scenario 1000 times.

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Jul 13

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Have y’all seen a baby Twi’lek? Because I want to adopt one.

Damn my intergalactic motherly urges.

Jul 12

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I’m starting a new religion. The two houses of worship are mountains and punk rock shows. FOBxCHICAGO.

I’m starting a new religion. The two houses of worship are mountains and punk rock shows. FOBxCHICAGO.

Jul 11

Unfortunately, the people who are supposed to love us aren’t always able to give us the kind of love we need. Whether they are our mothers or our fathers, our grandparents or our siblings, some family, no matter how good their intentions, leave us feeling empty, invalidated, uncared for, and alone. And on the days when that pain becomes too much to bear, our work is to recognize that those people whose love we so desperately pine for are never going to be able to meet our needs. Not because they don’t care, but because they can’t change who they are.

Their scant affection isn’t a reflection on our worth. It isn’t even about us. It’s about them and their own limitations and struggles. It’s about their unique way of expressing love and the fact that it doesn’t match up with our own. And we don’t have to internalize that. What we need is to start reaching out to the right people. We need to create a family of people outside of our family. People who can meet our needs and reciprocate our love.

We need to appreciate our families for the ways in which they are able to show they care, and be accepting of the ways they can’t. We need to make peace with who they are and if necessary, we need to give ourselves permission to let go. We need to know that our worth isn’t something another person’s love can give or take away. We need to trust that with or without their affection, we are enough.

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Daniell Koepke   (via junecoast)

That moment when a post is exactly describing what you were just talking about. How nice to know I’m not alone. 

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(Source: internal-acceptance-movement, via feministcounseling)

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When I’m in public and see a situation that could use a therapist, I’m just like:


When I’m in public and see a situation that could use a therapist, I’m just like:

Jul 04

When people tell me to ‘just calm down’ during a panic attack



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